About Relationship Matters Therapy

We’re just going through the motions.

Another night in – and another night of nothing to talk about. You really try. You both need someone to talk to – someone to share with – your “person.”

But lately, when you try to have an in-depth conversation, it falls apart and ends with withdrawal – one of you gets upset and leaves.

And now, you can’t even bring yourselves to talk about it – chalk it up to just one more unresolved argument to add to the list.

The New “Normal”

Frustrated. Apprehensive. Stonewalled. You’re going nowhere.

Anything you think or do, you know the reaction will be a snarky comment or the melodramatic eye roll – so, ultimately, you decide it’s easier to keep quiet.

In fact, so quiet that even when you’re sitting on the couch together, the palpable awkwardness and tension threaten to overwhelm you.

You may even feel like you’ve lost a sense of who you are in this relationship. You’d like to explore other avenues, but you know your partner will reject you. How do you bring this up? How do you express that you’re unhappy?

Frozen in Time

Between the loss of trust to confide in your partner and the routine of home, work, and kids, the days run together. Intimacy is completely out the window, and it’s hard to remember that you’re even married anymore.

You miss each other – the touching, being close. When you think back on it, you haven’t kissed in weeks and can’t even remember when you last had sex.

“What the hell happened to us?”

The stress on your relationship has given way to anxiety, depression, loneliness, and isolation.

These feelings only exacerbate the communication problems – you’re caught in a crippling cycle that seems impossible to escape.

Now, what?

Where do you go from here?

When one of you says, “Maybe we should go to therapy,” a strange and intimidating door opens.

Suddenly, it’s like you’re in some television show. You’re staring straight ahead – on opposite ends of the couch in a swanky office – with lots of fidgeting and awkward silences.

One of you finally says something. The therapist dictates all the answers, assigns blame on one partner, and what’s done is done.

Fortunately, that’s not how therapy works here!

Open Your Eyes – to New Possibilities

Once you sit down with your therapist and begin talking, your nervousness will melt away. Your therapist will not tell you what to do, and will also not going to blame either partner.

We are here to help your relationship in a way that works for both of you – not to judge you or your past.

You’ll experience amazing feedback and insights, along with guidance and proven supporting methods to create improvements where you want them.

As we continue our work, you’ll feel the progress and pinpoint the areas of greatest improvement. Your outlook will shift as we reflect on where you started vs. how much you’ve grown to the present.

Experiencing that shift will catalyze your momentum to continue working toward your goals.

You don’t have to do this alone.

The second you feel a disconnect – that’s the time to call us.

We use proven techniques to create a safe, nurturing space and empower you to make the decisions you feel best for you and your relationship.

We will also help you learn a better, healthier, more effective way to communicate. You’ll possess the keys to express your genuine needs and desires and manage conflict effectively – so you both feel heard, validated, and respected.

Rediscovering your strength as a couple and the bond between you will lead to solutions you’d never even considered or imagined.

Your possibilities are endless.