Couples Therapy

You thought love was enough.

When you first met, your days were filled with laughter and romance. Energized by mutual passion, desire, and support, you took on whatever each of you wanted to do.

Lifted by your newfound joy, you lived for the next moment you could be together. What else could you need when you had each other?

Everything was easy. You sensed the depth of your compatibility and knew, no matter what life had in store for you, you’d weather any storms together – as a team.

But now, reality has set in.

You feel as if you’ve woken up and don’t even know each other anymore.

Between the kids, the mortgage, and always being at work, you have hardly any time for yourself – let alone for your relationship and partner.

You’re finding out that the hard work and effort to stay afloat can make you question the love you once felt.

You’re scared this will not work.

Certainly, it’s crossed your mind: “Should we see a therapist?” But when one of you actually speaks the words out loud, panic sets in.

“Have we become THAT couple? The ones who really need to see someone?” But then, you look at how things have been recently and wonder why you hadn’t brought it up sooner.

While therapy sounds great in theory, the thought has popped up in your mind that seeking help could either make no difference – or actually make things worse. Even though you know something is wrong, going to a professional can feel like an enormous risk.

I’m here to tell you that the risk is worth it! Couples therapy has a success rate of 70%, and nearly 50% of married couples have attended couples therapy.

How can you help us fix this?

I use a combination of The Developmental Model, Relational Life Therapy, and intimacy-centered techniques to discover what’s going on in your relationship and help us find where to begin and what to repair.

In other words, we’ll explore the emotion behind each person’s behavior and past attachments – both of which may create confusion. I will be there in the trenches with you, joining you in the truth to any harmful dynamics in your relationship to teach you how to overcome them.

As we go, you’ll also learn communication techniques to understand each other better and manage the conflicts already happening and those inevitably yet to come.

Together, we’ll take it step-by-step.

The first step is the intake and assessment phase. We will use your initial session to understand what’s happening in the relationship and how you both feel. We will gauge your motivations for seeking therapy and explain the work that will take place both in and outside your sessions.

After the first session, you will each come in for a session separately before you return together as a couple (sessions 2 & 3 being individual sessions).

During our fourth session, you’ll return as a couple to receive feedback from your therapist and begin solidifying goals and a direction to go in depending on those goals.

From there, your number of sessions depends on you and the issues you’ve presented. The path to healing your relationship is nonlinear, and resolving things out of order is perfectly okay!

There’s no single “right” way to do this. The most important thing is that you remember not to give up on each other and really pay attention to the spots for improvement and growth along the way.

Change is possible.

We strongly believe you can turn your relationship around and make it even better than you could imagine. We have seen this happen many times – sometimes, all you need is the right person to show you how.

When it feels like the love, passion, happiness, and connection is nowhere in sight, it IS still possible to rediscover these with your partner again! It takes hard work, and sometimes, it will hurt like hell. But the only way to move forward is to move THROUGH this.

Don’t wait any longer; start rekindling your spark again today!

You won’t always leave our sessions feeling good, but you will feel the growth and reconnection with your partner.

And you’ll never feel alone – your therapist will be here to guide you along this journey. Every therapist at Relationship Matters Therapy provides couples therapy, so we can ensure to get you connected with the right person for your needs.

Some highs and lows come with saving your relationship, but we promise you – the process is worth it.

Give us a call today! (817) 562-6089 or click here to schedule your first appointment.